Divabetic (Divabetic.org) presents a month-long showcase celebrating 10 years of diabetes podcasting. Each of the featured podcasts spotlights our favorite guests, topics, poems, games and/or musical inspiration. Enjoy!
On Day 31, we’re spotlighting Divabetic’s Diabetes Late Nite Inspired by Maria Callasfrom January 2020. We’re talking about ways to help minimize the drama in our daily diabetes lives.
Maria Callas changed the way we listen to opera—and charged the ambition of the singers who followed her. Her ability to interpret a wide variety of different roles truly set her apart, establishing her as a phenomenon, an operatic diva. She was able to fully exploit the dramatic strength of her low vocal range as much as the high and bright notes of her high range.
Opera takes any type of dramatic story and tries to make it more exciting and more believable with the help of music. Symptoms and situations related to diabetes are often dramatic and come on very suddenly. But how do you react to them? Are you ‘drama queen’?
If there’s drama in multiple areas of your diabetes life, be honest with yourself—you’re the constant. Are you creating it? We don’t do anything repeatedly unless there’s something in it for us, so, what’s the payoff?
Every time we find ourselves immersed in something that seems overwhelming, we have an opportunity to learn how to deal with challenges better.
Our monthly podcasts are dedicated to Music Lovers living with, at risk and/or affected by diabetes. We aim to be the epicenter of the circle of care, a link between patients and their health care providers, a translator of clinical speak and a bridge between denial and acceptance, fear and confidence
Divabetic was inspired by the late music legend, Luther Vandross and created in 2005 by Max ‘Mr. Divabetic’ Szadek, who, as Vandross’ assistant of 14 years, witnessed his boss, mentor, and friend struggle in silence and solitude with the diabetes and its related complications. Since its inception, Divabetic has presented outreach programs in 15 major U.S. cities, reaching hundreds of thousands of women, their families and health care professionals.
Experience more of our GLAM MORE, FEAR LESS philosophy at divabetic.org
Dr. Wendy Satin Rapaport aka ‘Diabetes Psyche’ has worked as a social worker and psychologist specializing in diabetes for twenty-eight years.
Dr. Wendy Satin Rapaport shares advice for why ‘conversation, talk, play and structure’ are rules of the dayfor people living with diabetes in this video:
Dr. Wendy Satin Rapaport aka the Diabetes Psyche
Dr. Wendy Satin Rapaport PhD guests on April’s Diabetes Late Nite podcast. LISTEN with this LINK. Country music’s brightest star, Maren Morris inspires us to stay strong as we face the challenges of living with diabetes during the coronavirus pandemic. Podcast guests include Author of the Noodle Shop Mysteries: Vivien Chien, Lorraine Brooks, Sara (Mandy) Reece, PharmD, CDE, Dr. Wendy Satin Rapaport PhD, Patricia Addie-Gentle RN, CDE, and Alexis Gray.
We’re excited to announce our special line-up for Divabetic’s World Diabetes Day edition of Diabetes Late Nite. Diabetes Strong founder, Christel Oerum will stop by the studio to share her experience thriving with type 1 diabetes and the Queen of Soul, Aretha Franklin will provide musical inspiration. Join us here on Wednesday, November 14 from 6 – 7:30 PM.
Christel is a certified personal trainer, diabetes writer and advocate. She has been living with type 1 diabetes since 1997, and lives by the motto “there’s nothing you can’t do with diabetes.” With a wonderful life motto like that, we had to ask Christel to share some advice and guidance on staying strong with diabetes prior to our podcast interview.
Q: You posted on Diabetes Strong that when you first started to work out that you didn’t understand the difference between being ‘skinny’ and being ‘fit’. Can you explain how this impacted your fitness goals?
Christel Oerum: It shifted my whole approach to health and the way I structure my workouts and nutrition. While “skinny” can easily become an endless chase to “lose weight”, being fit and strong is more tangible. My focus is now more on increasing strength and eating to ensure my body can perform. I find strength incredibly empowering and I never go to the gym for “punishment” or to lose anything. I go because I like it and when I leave, I feel accomplished.
Q: Most women don’t want to lift weights because they’re afraid of looking ‘too bulky’ – what’s your opinion?
Christel Oerum: Building muscle is surprisingly hard, especially for women, so I don’t think women have to fear that. To “bulk up”, you have to consistently (we’re talking years) lift heavy and eat enough to support muscle gain. I’ve done that, and I don’t think I look “bulky” but that I look strong.
Q: What does your saying ‘forget about “toning” and focus on “building” mean?
Christel Oerum: “Toning” is such a weird term. Toning indicates that you lean out (aka reduce your body fat) to reveal your muscle tone. Well, you need to build muscle first in order to show it off. I think a lot of people (especially women) become frustrated when they lose weight and still don’t have the “toned” body they want.
Obviously, we all carry muscle even if we never lifted a dumbbell, but if you really want to “tone”, you’re probably also interested in having a little more muscle tone to show off.
Q: How do you deal with blood sugar fluctuations before, after and during your workout?
Christel Oerum: I limit the fluctuations by having a good understanding of how different workouts most likely will affect my blood sugar and by knowing which blood sugar management strategies are optimal to implement. I’ve written several articles on that on Diabetes Strong because it’s something many struggle with, and it takes time and effort to figure out what works for the individual.
But gaining that knowledge is golden. By knowing which types of exercise most likely will increase blood sugar and which won’t, we can adjust our medication and food accordingly and just enjoy exercise more.
Q: How do you feel that knowing how many calories you’re eating and what kind of calories you’re eating is important?
Christel Oerum: I don’t think it’s always important to know your calorie intake. I definitely don’t track what I eat all the time. However, if you do want to gain or lose weight, it’s important to know how much you’re consuming compared to how much you should be consuming. And the most efficient way to determine that is by tracking your food for a while. There are different methods for that and I always recommend people choose the right method for them. If tracking calories result in unwanted eating pattern and eating disorder behavior, I highly recommend a different method.
Q: How can others living with diabetes learn how to make peace with their obstacles and find ways to turn them into something positive?
Christel Oerum: I truly believe in finding your way through joy and support. We all have obstacles we need to tackle, and if they’re not approached with some level of positive outlook, they will become practically impossible to work your way out of. Diabetes is an obstacle, but it’s also an opportunity to become extremely aware of how your body works and responds to pretty much anything you do. And you’re not alone in this journey. There is a vast diabetes community online that you can tap into. We’re in group chats, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and in person at meet-ups around the world, you just need to reach out.
Q: We’ve read that you often advise people living with diabetes who are interested in starting a fitness routine to do ‘what gives them energy’ what does that mean? Can you explain?
Christel Oerum: I find that when we enjoy something, when we have fun, it makes us happy and gives us energy. If you love to dance, you might be smiling all the way through that favorite song of yours, and you’ll probably have a smile on your face or in your heart even after the song is over, even if you are out of breath and covered in sweat. That’s how I feel about resistance training. I might not always want to go, but I pretty much always feel amazing afterward. I feel energized and happy.
Do what you like and what makes you happy – not what someone else says is the “best” way to exercise.
There are many reasons that Aretha Franklin is the legend of legends, a groundbreaking singer with the fortitude to transcend race and genre, using that tremulous voice as the bulldozer to break down every barrier set up in her way.
Aretha’s own health journey is sparking a discussion about the uncertain connection between pancreatic cancer and diabetes. Long-standing diabetes can be considered a risk factor for pancreatic cancer. It causes a modest increase in risk of 1.5- to two-fold. Some of the other risk factors for pancreatic cancer include smoking, chronic pancreatitis (inflammation of the pancreas), family history of pancreatic cancer, obesity and certain genetic syndromes.
Diabetes Late Nite is a fast-paced, full-filled hour of diabetes education and wellness advice that encourages listeners to “laugh a little, learn a lot.
We’re excited to announce our special line-up for Divabetic’s World Diabetes Day edition of Diabetes Late Nite. Wendy Satin Rapaport, LSCW, PsyD, a social worker and psychologist specializing in diabetes for the past 28 years will stop by the studio and the Queen of Soul, Aretha Franklin will provide musical inspiration. Join us here on Wednesday, November 14 from 6 – 7:30 PM.
“Dr. Wendy” recently co-authored a new wisdom-filled guide, Friendship Matters: Memoir, Life Lessons, Laughter, to provide insight on how to create more meaningful relationships. Divabetic’s founding principle encourages an entourage of support to help make the difference between someone living with diabetes feeling overwhelmed or empowered. We were intrigued and asked Dr. Wendy to share some advice on the subject prior to our podcast interview.
Q: How can our friendships help us to better manage our diabetes?
Dr. Wendy Satin Rapaport (WSR): There is nothing worse than feeling alone in the world. I wrote a book with my friend Dr. Sandra Bernstein (also a psychologist) as a celebration of our friendship. We also wanted to highlight the superpowers of friendship in general: improved health and longevity; enhanced capability in relationships and decision making; the pleasure of a sweet loving connection. Friendship includes someone who is a good mother to you – has your back, is interested to really know you and is worthy of your trust. He/she genuinely accepts you as you are, good diabetes care or not, and still with the goal of partnering with you to change to more positive attitudes and habits. That is the setting for you to take better care of your diabetes and to help someone else take better care of their diabetes.
Friendship enables us to share vulnerability, normalize it, feel understood, remind us to feel compassion, and then move forward to problem solving. It’s a gift which is often reciprocal to us and the other person. When we have friendship, we can share our fears and our roadblocks to taking care of diabetes. Friends might just listen or offer up good ideas. The prerequisite is being open-hearted and open-minded. We can have good boundaries by being interested in, and not taking over the problems of diabetes. When we have a truly strong and effective friendship, we realize the skills in giving and getting criticism. If a friend says, “You are always eating the wrong things,” you can smile and say, “I know you care about me, and perhaps worry. What I would find helpful is asking not criticizing.”
The moment I meet someone with diabetes, I “match” them with someone else…it may be someone with more or less success with handling the diabetes…I just know the connection to each other is relieving and uplifting.
Q: What advice can you offer to someone living with diabetes who is interested in telling their co-workers and employers about their diabetes?
(WSR): First, get your self-esteem, resilience, and sense of humor intact. People say things unwittingly that can make us crazy. Anticipate possible scenarios and prepare for them. You might begin by asking “Do you know anyone who has diabetes because if you don’t, now you do.” Next you can ask what that means to them or what they know. You want to be ready with what kind of help friends can give you, as well as how they can reach out to you. Realize what you need can change over time. Formulate a response when someone seems intrusive and say the true positive (authentic) first such as “Thanks so much for your interest -caring…I’d rather not discuss that now.”
Q: In your book, Friendship Matters, you discuss ’emotional regulations’ and ‘emotional literacy’. Can you explain what these terms mean?
(WSR): Emotional literacy is our capacity to know how our emotions function such as what pleases us, aggravates us, turns us passive or aggressive, or throws us into frustration and despair. This self-awareness allows us to regulate or tamp down with acknowledgement. We also want to recognize our self-talk to eliminate negative behavior toward ourselves, as in making poor diabetes choices. For example, when testing blood sugar and it shows 240, we might say to ourselves, “I give up. I am not testing. It just depresses me.” Recognition allows us to instead apply compassion and reason and say, “I am a good person with elevated blood sugars. I am so glad I tested. Now I know why I am irritable. I will call my friend to meet me and take a walk to get it down and cheer myself up by my discipline and her friendship.”
It pays to be emotionally literate because we make better choices and feel better about ourselves and our friends as well as bosses, partners, children, etc. It works everywhere, with consciousness, practice, and forgiveness of ourselves and friends.
Q: Why do you feel a psychologist should be the first person you see after your initial diagnosed?
(WSR): I want people to start out with a psychologist (social worker or coach) because they need to mourn and accept the diagnosis. It’s good to do it with a party who is trained to hear and not judge and help the family go through it together. Our goal is to get you to realize you are a terrific person, with diabetes. The professional can help with coping skills for handling problems and prevent the burnout which often can come with the labor-intensive work involved in taking care of oneself. To prevent the potential loneliness of having to live with a chronic illness, I recommend a support group. It helps people feel the connection, normalcy and the mutual high from being able to help each other. My doctoral dissertation was on humor as a coping mechanism in diabetes and I recommend the groups be fun as well as cathartic and instructive on being more successful with the diabetes and with just being a person!
I also love the concept of prevention…avoiding problems that might occur by initiating support, constructive ideas, and good habits. When I start out right away with a family, I teach them to stay positive. For example, when their child has a 300 blood sugar, they might say “I’m so glad you tested. That might explain your feeling tired and irritable.” If I don’t teach that right away, the parent might be screaming, “Why don’t you care about yourself? What did you do? What did you eat?” The child will repeat the same critical response in his/her self-talk later. The criticism leads to sneaking and shame whereas the acceptance and interest leads to behavior change and problem solving such as “Thanks for letting me know that you didn’t want to test in front of your friends, so you ate something without checking it out. This is a problem we can solve.”
Authors Dr. Wendy Satin Rapaport and Dr. Sanda Neshin Bernstein are both clinical psychologists who co-authored a wisdom-filled guide, Friendship Matters: Memoir, Life Lessons, Laughter, which shows us how to have more meaningful relationships. Through examples of their own friendship, they explore the power of this connection and show that, while friendship takes work, it should be celebrated for the ways it can improve our lives and help us grow. Close friends are lifelines—the people who help us through the worst days and who cheer us on during the best. We can learn to nurture our friendships most effectively by keeping a few principles in mind. With good friends by our side, anything is possible!
We’re celebrating World Diabetes Day with a special Diabetes Late Nite musical inspiration from Aretha Franklinon Wednesday, November 14, 2018, 6 – 7:30 PM.
There are many reasons that Aretha Franklin is the legend of legends, a groundbreaking singer with the fortitude to transcend race and genre, using that tremulous voice as the bulldozer to break down every barrier set up in her way.
Aretha’s own health journey is sparking a discussion about the uncertain connection between pancreatic cancer and diabetes. Long-standing diabetes can be considered a risk factor for pancreatic cancer. It causes a modest increase in risk of 1.5- to two-fold. Some of the other risk factors for pancreatic cancer include smoking, chronic pancreatitis (inflammation of the pancreas), family history of pancreatic cancer, obesity and certain genetic syndromes.
Guests include Poet Lorraine Brooks, Dr. Wendy Satin Rapaport, Diabetes Strong’s owner Christel Oerum, Beautyphonics CEO and “Beneath The Makeup”Author Suzanne Perez, Mama Rose Marie and the Charlie’s Angels of Outreach.
Diabetes Late Nite is a fast-paced, full-filled hour of diabetes education and wellness advice that encourages listeners to “laugh a little, learn a lot.
