Divabetic – Makeover Your Diabetes Pilot Program Smells Like A Failure in Atlanta, GA!

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The first pilot program of Divabetic’s “Makeover Your Diabetes” at the Fox Theatre in Atlanta, GA, was a disaster—until the last thirty minutes!

A month or two before, I had somehow miraculously managed to convince BioSector 2, Novo Nordisk’s healthcare communications agency, to take a chance on my bold, flashy, and glamorous approach to diabetes outreach. My idea involved combining free makeover services with one-on-one diabetes education focused primarily on women. (I had once presented a much smaller version of this idea in New York City.)

Now, there I was in Atlanta, with my newly created national team, which included diabetes educators, a plus-size image consultant, and a celebrity makeup artist, providing free outreach at the Fox Theatre. We stepped in as a last-minute replacement for Novo Nordisk’s calendar. However, two hours into our program, my ambitious dreams of touring cities and venues where my boss, Luther Vandross, had performed—helping to educate and empower Luther’s fans on preventing diabetes-related health complications—were sinking faster than a lead balloon. I was sweating bullets as I hosted this expensive diabetes outreach event for women in a grand ballroom, looking out at a crowd of fewer than a hundred attendees. Talk about a nightmare! I had underestimated the sheer logistics needed to travel, market, and activate any semblance of a diabetes community in Atlanta, a place where no one had ever heard of “Divabetic” before. I mistakenly assumed that if we built it, they would come. Unfortunately, that was not the case.

So, how did I manage to flip the script in those crucial last thirty minutes and transform our Atlanta flop into a surge of interest that made it the first stop on our national diabetes outreach tour? I did what I often did backstage at the DLife TV tapings and our Divabetic support meetings at the YMCA: I started talking to women about their diabetes. I took to the stage, grabbed the microphone, and began giving away gorgeous gift baskets to women who bravely shared their personal stories of living with type 1, type 2, and LADA diabetes. Ironically, our original “Makeover Your Diabetes” plan hadn’t even included a stage show or my role as the fabulous MC extraordinaire. It wasn’t even on my radar! If you ever attended any of the subsequent programs I hosted, which featured elaborate performances without interruptions, you might find this hard to believe.

Back then, in Atlanta, my role was serving as the Production Director for the event. Our education—encompassing five educational stages (diabetes A, B, C, fitness, nutrition, goal setting, and image)—formed what we called the infamous Makeover Maze, surrounded by a ring of complimentary makeover services (makeup and chair massage). A week before the event, I enlisted my parents to host a Divabetic merchandise table. I also recruited my friend, photographer Winston Kerr (who had worked with me on Luther Vandross tours), to set up a “Pass The Boa” Diva Photo Booth and my Gotham’s Writers Workshop friend, Toni Gadsden. These last-minute ideas truly made the program shine.

Now, back to those final thirty minutes of an underperforming attempt at diabetes outreach diva-style. Out of the corner of my eye, I spotted a row of beautiful, untouched gift baskets sitting behind our Divabetic merchandise table. Not wanting to disappoint the vendor who donated them, I had to act fast to give them away before the event ended. I figured the best way to accomplish that was to give them away on stage. The catch? To receive a basket, you had to come up on stage and share your experience of living with diabetes with me in front of the audience. Dressed in my trusty Divabetic t-shirt and jeans (since I hadn’t designed a fruit suit yet), I hopped on stage with a basket in hand and asked, “Who wants to win a gorgeous gift basket?”

My offer proved too tempting, and slowly but surely, women began to line up to join me on stage. One woman candidly shared how she woke up one day, shocked to discover she was twenty years older and twenty pounds heavier. She realized that if she wanted to see the next twenty years, it was time to tackle her diabetes head-on.

After giving away the last basket and waving goodbye to our new impromptu stars, I returned backstage to assist my team with the load-out. I didn’t think much about my on-stage antics; it felt like just another typical Divabetic gig where sharing testimonials came as naturally as breathing. However, Novo Nordisk’s representative, Susan J., had a different perspective. She told me those poignant testimonies were powerful and enlightening—like a TED Talk but with more pizzazz. Captivated, and even with the low turnout, she was ready for round two. Against her better judgment, she approved our next Divabetic pilot program scheduled for Philadelphia, PA. But there were three conditions: I had to don my stage persona and coax women into sharing their stories again, and I needed to compensate my parents and Winston, who turned out to be the unsung heroes of the evening.

I was over the moon! But hold your applause—now, my team and I had less than a month to rally over a hundred women at risk, living with, or affected by diabetes, in Philadelphia, PA. Plus, I had to put together a stage show. Was that even possible?

The ‘Pass The Boa’ Beginnings

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“I often heard women say, ‘I won’t have anything in common with the other women except for my diabetes,’ before attending a Divabetic Club meeting. However, within five minutes of meeting peers, those feelings of apprehension would fade away. Women who joined us quickly realized that sharing the experience of diabetes—whether they were living with type 1, type 2, LADA, or prediabetes—fostered a sense of community.

For several years, I hosted free monthly diabetes support meetings for all types of individuals affected by diabetes, including those with type 1, type 2, prediabetes, and those at risk, as well as their family members. These meetings were held at the McBurney YMCA in New York. The idea originated after I met Dana Hariton and Amy Jordan, both of whom live with type 1 diabetes, in the audience at a DLife TV show taping. Dana, a certified life coach, led our initial monthly meetings, which we called ‘Bee A Diva.’

Over time, these meetings evolved into Divabetic Club programs, featuring outstanding educators like Joy Pape, Jessica Issler, and Carol Yates, who volunteered their time. I specifically invited certified educators to moderate our discussions on diabetes self-care to help prevent unsolicited advice from some participants.

Every monthly meeting began with a fun icebreaker I created called “Pass the Boa.” We would sit in a circle, passing a feather boa from one participant to another. The boa represented a diva in my mind! When someone put on the boa, they had the opportunity to introduce themselves and share their diabetes journey. The women openly discussed their struggles, worries, anger, frustrations, and successes. 

I remember one woman who attended month after month but couldn’t accept her type 2 diagnosis. She would often say, ‘I don’t understand how I could be diagnosed with diabetes today when I didn’t have it yesterday. What happened overnight?’ In moments of distress, we would offer words of encouragement, but most of the time, we simply listened. These testimonials proved invaluable in shaping Divabetic programming.

I invited various guest speakers and organized activities such as tea tastings, flower-making workshops, image services, tarot readings, tai chi demonstrations, and even sex toy parties. Activities that kept our hands busy helped facilitate open conversation.

For the record, we never discouraged men from joining us.

50 Years of Dazzling with Type 1 Diabetes 

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Our friend, clinical Psychologist and Certified Diabetes Care and Education Specialist, Dr. Beverly S. Adler, PhD, CDCES, proudly displays her 50-Year Award and Medal for living with type 1 diabetes, presented by the Joslin Diabetes Center in Boston.

Dr. Bev has appeared at multiple Divabetic events and on podcasts, including a series that addresses the emotional aspects of living with diabetes. She often compares adjusting to a diabetes diagnosis to the five stages of grief (such as denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance).


During a phone conversation, Dr. Bev noted that the grief process may continue for many individuals until they reach a state of acceptance.

Dr. Beverly S. Adler: “You can easily feel burned out trying to manage your blood sugar with all it’s protocols: check your blood sugar (multiple times per day), take your medication (insulin and/or pills, multiple times per day), eating healthy, being active, keeping up with medical appointments to monitor your diabetes. That said, you might experience anxiety and depression trying to manage diabetes self-care, but you can’t live in denial without risking serious health complications.”

Q: How did Dr. Bev feel when she was first diagnosed with diabetes? 

Dr. Beverly S. Adler: “It was a Monday morning in March 1975 when my General Practitioner told me with great certainty that I would be blind within ten years. He gave me my first injection of insulin. There were no practice shots for me to learn how to inject myself. There were no diabetes educators or support groups for me to ask for guidance.”

Q: Yikes! What did she do? 

Dr. Beverly S. Adler: “At the time, I was in college studying psychology, but the doctor’s prediction made me question whether I should continue my studies. Ultimately, I decided to persevere, believing that I could still hear my patients even if I couldn’t see them. Ten years after my diagnosis, I still believed I would go blind. However, when I visited my ophthalmologist, he found no damage to my eyes. After 20 years of living with diabetes, my ophthalmologist reassured me that I had never experienced any damage, so my vision would remain intact. At the forty-year milestone, another ophthalmologist confirmed that my eyes were in pristine condition. And after 50 years, my opththalmologist still reports that my eyes are in excellent shape.”

Q: How has she managed to defy her doctors’ predictions?

Dr. Beverly S. Adler: “Although I’m the first to admit that I’m not perfect—nobody is—diabetes doesn’t take a vacation. But I still have my busy practice specializing in the emotional challenges faced by people with diabetes. I made lemonade out of lemons, and I’m very happy that living with diabetes has led me to embrace a healthy lifestyle and pursue a career in diabetes psychology!”

Dr. Beverly S. Adler, PhD, CDCES, has published two books, My Sweet Life: Successful Women with Diabetes and My Sweet Life: Successful Men with Diabeteswhich include insightful lessons of empowerment written by successful men and women with diabetes. Available for purchase on her website

Tales Of A Dazzling Diabetes Advocate, Part 1

Max Szadek

Since the Luther: Never Too Much documentary continues to air on CNN, I’ve decided to share my journey of how I transitioned from being a celebrity assistant to becoming a passionate advocate for diabetes awareness.

My goal has always been to help encourage people at risk, affected by and living with diabetes thrive.

Tales Of A Diabetes Advocate Part 1

No one was more surprised than I was when I became a diabetes advocate. However, after witnessing my boss, Luther Vandross, suffer a devastating stroke related to mismanaged type 2 diabetes, I felt compelled to take action. I wanted to raise awareness and help others avoid a similar health crisis. I was inspired by Patti LaBelle to coin the phrase “Divabetic” during her performance at a Luther tribute concert at the Theater at Madison Square Garden.

That night, I quickly came up with the tagline, “Sugar’s the Bitch. Not Me.”

The next day, I showed the term “Divabetic” to Luther’s niece, Seveda, who loved it and encouraged me to continue. If Seveda hadn’t liked it, I might not have pursued this path, but with her support, I enlisted Luther’s longtime art director, George Corsillo, to design my first Divabetic t-shirt. Armed with a bag of Divabetic t-shirts, I dove headfirst into diabetes advocacy.

My first event was organized by my sister-in-law, Laura, during a diabetes outreach event in Columbia, SC. Coincidentally, my older brother, Bob, was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes around the same time that Luther suffered his stroke. Watching two of the strongest men I know cope with a chronic condition deeply resonated with me and fueled my determination.

My parents also helped me at my first event in Columbia, SC. I remember my mother creating t-shirt displays using one of her accordion room dividers.

Although I don’t recall anyone expressing much interest in what I was doing, that didn’t stop me. Upon returning to New York City, I started selling Divabetic (and Dude-A-Betic) t-shirts at street fairs and health events. Luther’s niece, Seveda, joined me on many of these outings. Determined to succeed, I continued to immerse myself in diabetes advocacy and began my outreach efforts slowly.

Thank you to everyone who has joined me on my journey in diabetes advocacy diva style!

How Patient Are You?

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I feel like my patience has eroded. I don’t know about you, but I struggle with waiting for a traffic light to change from red to green. To make it easier, I’ve tried turning it into a game: can I wait for the light to change before crossing the street, even if there’s no oncoming traffic? Most of the time, I can’t manage it. It feels like my patience is eroding. Many people believe that the decline of patience in modern society is due to the fast-paced nature of technology and the prevalence of instant gratification.

How patient are you?

I remember a woman named Roberta who attended our Divabetic Club meetings. We hosted free monthly diabetes support meetings at the McBurney YMCA, and Roberta epitomized patience. She had been living with type 1 diabetes for over three decades and often referred to herself as a “brittle diabetic.” This term describes a specific form of diabetes characterized by frequent and severe fluctuations in blood sugar levels.

Roberta explained that she practiced the Rule of 15 for treating low blood sugars. The Rule of 15—or the 15-15 rule—is a guideline for managing hypoglycemia in people with diabetes. It involves consuming 15 grams of fast-acting carbohydrates, waiting 15 minutes, and then checking your blood sugar again. If it’s still low, you repeat the process until your blood sugar returns to a safe level.

Roberta mentioned that she would light a candle and watch it melt while waiting for the 15 minutes to pass. If she needed to retreat, she would continue lighting the candle. I wonder how many people would be willing to do that today. I’m certain most would be scrolling through Instagram or consuming fast-acting glucose to resolve their issue as quickly as possible.

There’s a lot to be said for exercising patience in managing good health.

I Don’t Fix Problems, I Fix My Thinking

Louise Hay


“I don’t fix problems; I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves.”

Louise Hay emphasized that true transformation happens when we change our internal perspective, rather than focusing solely on external issues. Our thoughts and beliefs often shape the problems we encounter. By shifting our mindset, we can create more positive outcomes.

Renowned as one of the founders of the self-help movement, Louise Hay published her first book, Heal Your Body, in 1976. This book discusses the connection between the mind and body. Louise believed that our beliefs and ideas about ourselves are often the root causes of our emotional issues and physical ailments. She taught that by using specific tools, we can change our thinking and improve our lives.

Louise put her philosophies into practice when she was diagnosed with cancer. Instead of opting for surgery and drugs, she developed an intensive program that included affirmations, visualization, nutritional cleansing, and psychotherapy. Remarkably, within six months, she was completely healed of cancer.

Brenda White-King Talks About Luther Vandross

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‘m thrilled to share Brenda White-King‘s thoughtful reflection on Luther Vandross.  Brenda reflects on her deep friendship with Luther, sharing his profound impact on her life. She has said that his presence made her feel beautiful, a testament to his character and the genuine connections he fostered with those around him. 

During her tour with Roberta Flack, Brenda met Luther Vandross, who was singing background vocals for Flack. Their relationship blossomed as Luther launched his own solo career, during which Brenda had the privilege of supporting him on his journey and performing backing vocals for Dionne Warwick

 Brenda White-King’s story is one of talent, friendship, and the enduring connections forged through music.

Brenda White-King is a New Jersey-based vocalist in the music industry. She has had the incredible opportunity to tour alongside legends like Roberta Flack, Luther Vandross, Dionne Warwick, Dave Matthews Band, Nena, Chaka Khan, Serge Gainsbourg, Lenny Kravitz, and Aretha Franklin. Each of these collaborations has contributed to Brenda’s development as an artist. 

Brenda’s journey began at Barringer High School in Newark, where she first discovered her love for singing. She honed her craft and formed a girl group called the Ebonettes alongside her dear friend Gwen Guthrie from Orange. Brenda sang backing vocals on Ben E. King’s Supernatural Thing, Pt.1

As a side note, I designed several costumes for Dave Matthews’ Lovely Ladies: Tawatha Agee, Brenda White-King, and Cindy Mizelle. Additionally, Cindy Mizelle and Brenda White-King recorded my dance anthem That Man of Mine under the name ‘Sugar Shop’ back in the ’90s, which charted on the Billboard Dance Charts!

Beautiful Bathrooms & Managing Diabetes In the Bathroom

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Everyone loves a beautiful bathroom, right? Look at poet, artist, designer Apryl Miller‘s magical Eastside home in New York City!

It is truly an artist’s paradise with colorful patterned tiles, whimsical cabinetry, and breathtaking views. But even the most beautiful bathroom can’t magically fix the challenges of managing diabetes.

Managing diabetes is super important, especially when it comes to bathroom-related issues. Things like constipation, diarrhea, frequent urination, and urinary incontinence can affect daily life and personal dignity.

Sometimes, people don’t recognize the early signs of diabetes or pre-diabetes and go on living without making necessary lifestyle changes. This can lead to serious complications down the road. It’s essential to keep a close eye on blood sugar levels and follow medical advice to help prevent issues like bowel control problems.

I remember speaking with a woman who had unmanaged type 2 diabetes. She shared her struggle with not recognizing when to use the bathroom until it was too late. While determined to get her life back on track during college, she faced this personal challenge. High blood sugar can cause nerve damage in the digestive system, making it harder for her body to function correctly.

Plus, certain medications like Metformin, Ozempic, and Monjaro can have side effects that include diarrhea. It’s really important to take charge of diabetes management, not just for physical health, but also to maintain that sense of dignity and well-being. Let’s remember to be proactive and take steps toward better health! The first steps to overcoming the burden of diabetes management involve education, setting realistic goals, and building a support system. 


Don’t try to change everything at once. Focus on one or two manageable goals at a time, like adding more servings of vegetables or exercising for 15 minutes a day. It takes time to make lasting changes and see results. Celebrate your successes and don’t get discouraged by setbacks.

Focusing on understanding diabetes, making small, achievable lifestyle changes, and connecting with others can help ease the feeling of being overwhelmed. 

Emmy Award-Winning Alyson Williams Is Living With LADA

Emmy Award-winning singer Alyson Williams shares her experience of living with LADA (Latent autoimmune diabetes in adults) which develops in adults and shares characteristics with both type 1 and type 2 diabetes.

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Alyson Williams, well-known for her hit singles in the late 1980s and early 1990s, such as Just Call My Name, Sleep Talk, My Love Is So Raw, and I Need Your Lovin, inspires many with her music and her journey.

Living with LADA presents its own unique challenges, especially while touring and performing in different cities.

Alyson emphasizes the importance of self-care, encouraging everyone to prioritize their health regardless of their career demands. Seeking support from healthcare professionals can make a significant difference in managing fluctuating blood sugar levels.

Remember to treat yourself kindly today! Focus on positive self-talk, engage in self-care activities, and don’t hesitate to reach out to loved ones or diabetes support groups. It’s a journey we can navigate together, and every step counts!

You are doing great by taking care of yourself and staying informed.

The Boy Behind The Old Lady Who Lived In A Shoe

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I’m excited to share another offering from my series on secondary characters in popular fairytales and nursery rhymes!

This musing and artwork celebrate gay boys everywhere—those sensitive, creative tykes who see the world through rhinestone sunglasses, and the fabulous women who nurtured their artistic flair.

The Old Lady Who Lived In A Shoe story has always piqued my curiosity about the creative mind behind such a unique house shaped like footwear! This whimsical concept could only be brought to life by someone with a vibrant perspective.

Throughout my life, I’ve met many incredibly artistic gay men—painters, set designers, choreographers, interior designers, florists, and photographers. Their talent brings so much beauty into the world, and it’s a real tragedy that many of these exceptional individuals were lost during the AIDS crisis. I can’t help but picture one of these talented gay friends as the architect of this shoe house.

As I pondered the portrayals of older women in fairy tales, I realized that the typical image of frail, outdated characters doesn’t truly reflect the lively and stylish older women I know today. Countless fabulous women of advanced age are full of life and creativity!

Films like the Advanced Style documentary and Harold and Maude inspire my take on The Boy Behind The Old Lady Who Live In A Shoe. I blended Ruth Gordon‘s nurturing character and the wonderful women in real life who have supported and encouraged me into the character

I created. In my backstory, I imagine the Old Lady seeking out this gifted gay boy, knowing that only someone with his imagination and keen eye for style could help her create her dream house. She instinctively understands his potential and guides him to reach new heights. I hope someone in your life encourages you to visualize your dreams in living color.

The LGBTQ+ community and their allies have always played a crucial role in the arts, contributing creativity and resilience throughout history. I celebrate this rich legacy and the vibrant spirit it brings to our colorful lives!