Did you know mixing oil-based lubricants with latex condoms is not a good idea?

Since vaginal dryness is the biggest sexual complaint in women with diabetes then using lubricant is important. Vaginal dryness is, this  twice as likely if you have diabetes. If you are in menopause or postmenopause, less estrogen may be the cause. If you aren’t, damage to the nerves that lubricate your vagina may be. Vaginal dryness can become a painful cycle. If sex hurts because of it, you may tense up during sex, causing more pain, or avoid sex altogether.

Not using appropriate lubrication can actually lead to some pretty serious tears that can land you in the emergency room.

“If you’re using a latex condom, do not use an oil-based lube—including natural lubricants like olive or coconut oil—because they break down the latex and the condom becomes ineffective.” If you’re using a condom, you should be using a water or silicone-based lubricant.

Water-based lubricants come in two general types, with and without glycerin. Glycerin is a slightly sweet tasting substance. Brands containing glycerin include KY Jelly, Sylk, Astroglide, Probe, and Aqualube. However, women who often have vaginal yeast infections may wish to avoid glycerin lubes, as the sugar can encourage yeast growth. Liquid Silk and Play are two brands of water-based lubricant that do not contain glycerin.

Something to keep in mind is that many organic lubes or other glycerin free lubes use sweeteners other than sugar, such as aspartame. While this is great for those who cannot have sugar, others should keep this in mind as some people have negative reactions to aspartame. Knowing your own body and its reactions to various chemicals, and even natural sweetners, can help you to make better decisions about the type or brand of lube you want to use.

One of the safest bets for women with diabetes is a high quality silicone lubricant. No studies have shown people having reactions to pure silicone lubricant, and many higher end versions, just as Pjur Bodyglide and Gun Oil only have four or five ingredients, most of them different types of silicone or silicone blends. With little or no additives, these lubes are most certainly sugar free, and are great for all types of sex, unless you are using silicone toys.

Keep in mind that in addition to finding a good sugar free lube, you should have plenty of water and high impact snacks available during sex to help regular blood sugar as needed. If you are concerned, make sure to keep test strips nearby as well, and journal about what makes your blood sugar rises in fall in correlation with sexual activity.

Romantic relationships play an important role in our everyday lives. When diabetes enters the picture, it can complicate and strain even the most loving and open relationships. If you have diabetes, you may be looking for guidance on this sensitive subject – Janis Roszler and Donna Rice’s book, Sex and Diabetes is here to give help and advice where you need it. Don’t let diabetes hinder the romance; Sex and Diabetes can help you discover how to rekindle the intimacy with your partner.

The happy healthcare host, Mr. Divabetic explores issues of love, intimacy and diabetes on this special one hour  ‘Don’t Let Diabetes Kill Romance’ podcast.Both type 1 and type 2 diabetes can lead to sexual health complications including vaginal dryness, sensation and performance. Up to 50% of men and 25% of women may experience some kind of sexual problem or a loss of sex drive.

Don’t equate sexual performance with love or a fulfilling relationship; focus on letting your partner know you care and want to give pleasure as part of your relationship

Mr. Divabetic’s Guests include Best-Selling Author Lisa Eugene, Jennifer Martsolf from Trigg Laboratories (the makers of Wet Lubricants) and Janis Roszler MS, RD, LD/N, CDE, FAND (2008-2009 Diabetes Educator of the Year (AADE).

If you or your partner is experiencing sexual difficulties, you may find it helpful to meet with a mental health professional, such as a psychiatrist, psychologist, social worker, marriage counselor or sex therapist. These professionals can help you learn how to reduce stress and change behaviors and attitudes, particularly when impotence is caused by stress or other mental health issues. LISTEN NOW